Ever feel like you don’t deserve you’re accomplishments? Do you ever silently think that the people you work and socialize with are worthy of more than you are?
Many of us become unworthy of our success, we practice self doubt so much that we don’t even know we are doing it and then we minimise our achievements through a feeling of phoniness. Feeling less than others for some reason. Just know this, if you experience feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, you may be surprised to learn that you are in great company. Impostor Syndrome is typically associated with high achievers. So, if you feel like a fraud, the chances are that you’re more capable than you think. Real frauds after all don’t worry about things like limiting their possibilities.
The Imposter Syndrome is all about self doubt, self worth and feeling like a fraud. It is fuelled by our the inflated worth of others, and the lack of any of that worth for our own successes.
10 tips for dealing with imposter syndrome
Here are 10 ways to easily overcome Imposter Syndrome that you can use daily as you first develop awareness, then accept who you really are and then take new action from that standpoint for yourself:
1. How many opportunities may you have already lost? It is now time for change and growth that will start with personal accountability and responsibility.
2. Own your success as your new mission statement. Never down play your achievements and always celebrate the small victories.
3. V. Edmund said “Never doubt in the dark, what God told you in the Light” and what he means by that is that you need to keep the truth of who you really are at your core, even when you make mistakes. To err is human!
4. Remember that we are all the same and self doubt thoughts are natural, don’t cling to them. The only limits you have are the ones you believe.
5. Dont listen to the Naysayers. They are everywhere and what they say is none of your business as an adult.
6. Drop the perfectionism. It won’t serve you and is negative motivation.
7. Change your inner dialogue with affirmations when you catch yourself doubting your true potential and value.
8. Understand your core values and make them your intentions by writing them out and laminating them and keeping them with you wherever you go.
9. Confidence is cultivated. Like any skill you can hone it and master it over time. Be patient and kind to yourself. Be satisfied with your efforts, we are always doing the best we can.
10. Think outside the box at least once a month – use contemplative intelligence by dropping your entire story and going outside of the paradigm you have created for yourself. Take an hour and use pen and paper to think big and drop the walls we create for ourselves. Your abilities are scientifically speaking far, far more potent than you think they are. Practice progress rather than perfection in everything you do.
The good news is you’re worthy. We all are. You’re not perfect and that is also a good thing. There is very little in this world that is perfect and that is because only together everything is perfect. The world is one giant, throbbing blue marble of love where everything is being ironed out and improved. Albeit very, very slowly. The same goes for you. Love is patient and kind so start there with yourself. Be the love you want to see in the world. Make amends with your shadow and imposter and integrate it into your personality rather than try to hide it form the world and yourself. Never fall prey to #impostersyndrome