Once I thought I was unique, different and alone. Certainly, the disease of avoiding intimacy, developed from an narcissistic family system, kept me ignorant and isolated.
Who are you without your story? How would you feel if you did not think about the things that hurt you, that have caused you so much pain and trauma in life?
Getting out of your Drama Triangle starts with you knowing you're in one. Drama is something we and other people use to distract us from the reality of how we feel.
Self-love and depression don't naturally go together because when you have depression, it’s hard to loveyourself.
Feelings can be used appropriately or inappropriately. They can be based on accurate or inaccurate information. They can lead to adaptive behaviour or maladaptive behaviour.
HOW TO AVOID NARCISSISTIC FAMILIES AND THE SEVEN CHARACTER ROLES FAMILIES PLAY 1. Honesty. Nothing works better at healing this and almost all other negative family systems models. Just don’t keep secretes betwixt and between, spoken or unspoken. Speak up and speak honestly. Nothing will develop more healthy mechanisms, rules and roles than this. 2. … Continue reading 8 characteristics of Narcissistic Families
Feelings can be used appropriately or inappropriately. You can even Feel your feelings to heal depression. Feelings can be based on accurate or inaccurate information. They can lead to adaptive behaviour or maladaptive behaviour.
Many people with BPD and addiction ask themselves “Why me?” You may have a sibling, parent or other relative who also has a serious mental illness or an addiction to alcohol or other drugs, and you probably have many relatives who have not been afflicted with a mental illness or addiction.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I got to know about the 5 Regrets of the dying. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth.
Do you ever ask yourself honestly, am I an emotional victim? If you are depressed or anxious perhaps you should.